About your loved one
This page is probably the most detailed on this website;
it's here to help you remember more about your loved one,
and is the start of putting together a Eulogy or tribute.
At this stage, it's about gathering together all the information -
who reads/delivers the tribute at the funeral is something to think of separately.
it's here to help you remember more about your loved one,
and is the start of putting together a Eulogy or tribute.
At this stage, it's about gathering together all the information -
who reads/delivers the tribute at the funeral is something to think of separately.
It might help you to start writing details and memories down as soon as you think of them,
or as others mention things to you.
Some people find that the celebrant's visit can be a very emotional time so soon after a death,
so the more you can write down in advance of my visit, the less we are likely to miss.
I've listed here some of the main things that should help you;
they're very general things, and of course not all of them may be relevant in your particular circumstance.
- when and where they were born, their parents & family;
- their childhood, school years and education;
- what happened when they finished their education;
- first job(s), or perhaps National Service;
- if they married, details on how they met their spouse, and the courtship;
- if not married, perhaps there were special people in their lives;
- if there were children, their names and the years they were born;
- highlights and achievements during their adult life/working years;
- the year they retired;
- highlights and special occasions after their retirement;
- their twilight years, and perhaps their own losses along the way;
- the closing weeks/months of their lives.
Then, of course, there are the little things, the characteristics,
personal and special things about your loved one that made them who they were,
things that don't fit in to what I've listed above;
it will be those facts or stories that make your tribute into something more special,
and it's important that we try to include that personal element in what is said at the funeral.
We'll talk about these extra things during my visit.
personal and special things about your loved one that made them who they were,
things that don't fit in to what I've listed above;
it will be those facts or stories that make your tribute into something more special,
and it's important that we try to include that personal element in what is said at the funeral.
We'll talk about these extra things during my visit.
So that we have even more time to spend discussing the funeral itself,
I've prepared a form that you can download and print,
which will both save you time and be a good memory prompt
at a time when you have so many other things to think about.
You can choose between a PDF version, or a Word document; they are identical.
I've prepared a form that you can download and print,
which will both save you time and be a good memory prompt
at a time when you have so many other things to think about.
You can choose between a PDF version, or a Word document; they are identical.
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